In all things, then, God ordains conflict according to his sovereign, wise, and good purposes. This great truth must be central to our confession, our anchor in the midst of conflict, so that we are compelled and emboldened to be true ambassadors of reconciliation–to persevere as peacemakers. For conflict tries our true theology. It tests us and sifts our hearts, revealing what we truly believe and hold fast to. If we truly confess and believe that God ordains conflict, instead of cursing it, we can consecrate it. Instead of seeing conflict as an accident in a cosmos of chaos, we can accept it as a God-given assignment for our good and his ultimate glory. Most important, rather than perceiving conflict as an obstacle to our ministry, we can welcome it as an opportunity to minister.
–Alfred Poirier, The Peacemaking Pastor, 76