(I’ve been studying reconciliation and how to address it. Here are some more thoughts on the topic. Sadly, the need to reconcile is an all too common feature of the Christian life; although we should not be surprised when the Church requires us to live in such close proximity. We are bound to sin against one-another, and thus be ready, willing and able to quickly overlook — and where such is not possible, to confess and forgive):
To be spiritually minded is peace — and Christ is our peace. (Rom.8:6; Eph. 2:14). Not all confrontation is godly (Gal. 5:14-15 & 20). It is only the operation of the Spirit which produces the necessary grounds for peace (Gal. 5:22-24).
When we [note that true God-glorifying reconciliation will require a Godward heart on both sides; secondly, courtesy tends to be attractive, therefore “we”, not “you” or “I”] consider Hebrews 1:1-4, we see plainly how Christ makes the place for peace.
First, conflict arises from our heart (Mark 7:21-23) as a desire for something we do not have (James 4:1-5). But here in Hebrews we see that God has spoken to us in the Son who is the “heir of all things”. Now, since we will inherit with Jesus (Rom. 8:17), all things are ours (1 Cor. 4:21-24). Therefore, there is no longer any ground for you or I to quarrel over some-thing whether it physical or otherwise (such as status or honor). If you and I have all things, what more is there to fight about?
Second, we quarrel because we seek justice. But we see in Hebrews 1:3, that Jesus has already made the purification for sin. In 1 Peter 2:18-25 we see how Christ answers for any injustice we suffer, and how this leads to peacefulness even when we suffer wrong. That is why the only option open to either you or me when we suffer is to bless and forgive. But what if there is injustice done? Then it is given over to the Judge of all. If there is a need for punishment, he will punish. If there is correction, he will correct. But what if the one who has done me wrong is a Christian, then he will not be punished! In such a case I must rest in the knowledge that Christ has suffered for the sins of a believer even when those sins have been rendered against me.